Changes in relationship with self

During the teen years, teens gain a new understanding of themselves. This may include changes in these self-concepts:

Independence

This means making decisions for yourself and acting on your own thought processes and judgment. Teens start to learn to work out problems on their own. As they gain more reasoning and intuitive abilities, they start to face new responsibilities. They start to enjoy their own thoughts and actions. Teens also start to have thoughts and fantasies about their future and adult life (for instance, college or job training, work, and marriage).

Identity

This is defined as a sense of self or your personality. One of the key tasks of adolescence is to reach a sense of a personal identity and a secure sense of self. A teen gets comfortable with, and accepts, a more mature physical body. They also learn to use their own judgment and make decisions on their own. As these things happen, the teen addresses their own problems. And they start to develop a concept of themselves. Trouble developing a clear concept of self or identity occurs when a teen can’t resolve struggles about who they are as a physical, sexual, and independent person.

Self-esteem

This is how you feel about yourself. Self-esteem is determined by answering the question "How much do I like myself?" With the start of adolescence, a decrease in self-esteem is somewhat common. This is due to the many body changes, new thoughts, and new ways of thinking about things. Teens are more thoughtful about who they are and who they want to be. They notice differences in the way they act and the way they think they should act.

Once teens start thinking about their actions and characteristics, they are faced with how they judge themselves. Many teens place importance on how they look. When teens don’t think they are attractive, it often causes poor self-esteem. A teen's self-esteem often increases as they develop a better sense of who they are.

Changes in peer relationships

Teens spend more time with friends. They report feeling more understood and accepted by their friends. Less and less time is spent with parents and other family members.

Close friendships tend to develop between teens with similar interests, social class, and ethnic backgrounds. While childhood friendships tend to be based on common activities, teen friendships expand to include those with similar attitudes, values, and shared activities. Teen friendships also tend to be based on educational interests. Girls often have very close, intimate conversations with friends. They often share personal things about themselves. This helps them to explore identities and define their sense of self. Conversations within these important friendships also help teens explore their sexuality and how they feel about it. Teen boys' friendships are often less intimate. Boys are more likely to have a group of friends who confirm each other's worth through actions and deeds rather than personal sharing.

Changes in romantic relationships

The shift to sexual relationships is influenced by sexual interest and by social and cultural influences and expectations. Social and cultural expectations and behaviors in romantic relationships are learned from observations and practice. During adolescence, developmental tasks include struggles to gain control over sexual and aggressive urges. Discovering possible or actual love relationships also occurs. Sexual behaviors during adolescence may include impulsive behavior, a wide range of experimental interactions of mutual exploring, and eventually intercourse. In time, having a mutually satisfying sexual partnership within a love relationship may be found.

Changes in family relationships

One of the developmental tasks of the teen years is to separate from family as the teen becomes an independent young adult. A part of this process is coming to terms with specific feelings about one's family. During this time, teens start to realize that their parents and key authority figures don’t know everything. They don't have solutions to all types of struggles. Some teen rebellion against parents is common and normal. Over time, disagreements often decrease. But relationships with mothers tend to change more than with fathers. As teens become more independent from their parents, they are more likely to turn to their peers for advice.